Those feelings you’ve been having as a veteran? Yeah, those ones.
You’re not alone.
There’s a lot they never told us.
If you're considering therapy but want to talk to someone who gets it, reach out. As a fellow veteran, I understand that taking this step isn't easy, but it is a game-changer. Let's have a straightforward conversation about where you're at and how we might work together to reconnect with what matters most to you.
Being outside of the VA system, we create a space that respects your unique journey:
Longer sessions that honor your full experience
No treatment limits or arbitrary cutoffs
Consistent relationship with your psychologist—no need to repeatedly share your story with new providers
Enhanced confidentiality that protects your privacy and career
Scheduling flexibility that respects your life beyond just veteran status
Care guided by your needs and wisdom—not by standardized protocols
Freedom to explore all aspects of your identity and experience
Support accessing community resources and support networks when helpful
The foundation of this work is dedicated to 23-year-old Sgt. Knitter, who:
Started crying when she got her DD-214, which was weird since she’d felt okay with her discharge.
Who shoved that feeling down and kept going without thinking much of it.
A year later, felt like she’d fallen off a cliff and was a complete failure. Figured she must be the only one who sucked this bad at transitioning since she'd never heard of anyone else struggling.
Bounced around between different jobs, feeling bored in all of them.
Made someone cry at work, even though she had tried really hard to be nice.
Isolated herself from others.
Would get mad out of nowhere. Or start crying. But just ignored it or went to the gym, and it would pass.
Thought things were great. Totally healthy; nothing to worry about at all.
Over time, she’d come to learn that:
The sensation of falling off a cliff and feeling like a failure is the typical experience – not the exception.
The military leaves a huge impact whether you served for six months or an entire career. Its culture shapes how you see yourself and the world, sometimes in ways that conflict with your authentic self.
Building relationships where the person truly gets you is possible, even outside of other veterans.
There’s no stigma in getting help; it takes a team to accomplish any mission, even when the mission is ourselves.
Emotions that come out of nowhere or are way bigger than the situation calls for are signs that your body's wisdom is asking to be heard. Learning to listen can transform these reactions into information that serves rather than controls you.
It’s possible to feel like what you do after the military matters just as much as what you did in uniform, and there’s so much more available to you out there beyond just “embracing the suck.”